Despite the fact that we have talked about safety and general dos and don’ts before, we’re still staggered by the sheer amount of high risk sex that seems to be continuously reported throughout the media whether in gossip columns or sex confessionals. Just this morning I read an email forum thread on Yahoo where an 18 year old girl was asking whether or not she should worry she’s pregnant as her hook up had come inside her without wearing a condom.
Leaving aside the huge rage disbelief I have at stories like this, our job is to aid and educate you at this stage so that you can enjoy casual sex without having to worry about unintended complications.
So I’ve broken this down into a mini guide over what precautions you should be taking and when to know when to back off.
1. Sex always has consequences
Whether they’re physical or emotional you always need to be aware that you’re connecting with another human being. Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can treat people like pieces of meat (even when they ask you to – more on fetish another time) and walk away with a clear conscience. You both need to be aware of any boundaries and desires before you start banging away. Respect for one another is perhaps more important in casual sex then it is in a committed relationship. Would you like it if a near stranger treated you like shit? Treat your partners with the respect they deserve.
2. Safe Sex
It’s easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment but for fuck’s sake, use condoms, the pill, dental dams and any other method of safe sex to protect yourselves. An STD or unplanned pregnancies are things you don’t want to deal with so be sensible and use a fucking rubber before you bang each other’s brains out. If a new partner is willing to have unprotected sex with you then how do you know who else they’ve had unprotected sex with? Be smart and be safe.
3. If in doubt, stay away
If at any point you doubt your partner’s intentions, then it’s best to draw a line under the fling and move on. It’s really important to listen to your gut feelings in casual relationships. If someone sounds too good to be true, they probably are.
4. Feelings
We all have them, for better or worse. If you think you are developing stronger feelings towards your partner you need to address them rather then ignore them. You realistically have two options: talk to your partner, or walk away from the hook up. Choose whichever is best for you, although personally I would always recommend honesty over ignorance.
Keep these things in mind when hooking up, and remember to treat one another with respect. You might be fuck buddies but you’re also human beings.
Happy fucking, and stay safe.
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