We celebrate many thing in our lives. We celebrate certain times of the year, birthdays, anniversaries, we’ve just had Christmas and New years, one of the biggest in our culture! We also celebrate achievement and actions of a certain kind. Making lots of money is applauded, getting good grades at school gets you lots of attention, we celebrate those people who make other peoples lives better and happier. One of the things that we rarely celebrate here in the UK is the achievement of getting sex.
Whilst we have over recent years thrown off the shackles that sex is bad and all of that stiff upper lip nonsense, we still have remnants of it which haunt us, and one of those affects how we see sex, and specifically, the pursuit of it.
If someone is without a job, they will take action to get a job. They will make a CV, contact employers and when they do get a job they will be patted on the back by their friends and family and applauded for their efforts.
When someone is without sex, taking these steps are seen as a negative thing. Taking positive action to remedy the situation of being without someone to share an intimate moment with is not celebrated, and sometimes the opposite is true, it can be condemned. Lets look at online websites for example.
I am glad to say that things have changed massively in the last 10 years. For a long time even the most basic and badly run of internet dating sites was seen as bad thing. If you were internet dating 10 years ago you were seen as “sad”, someone who couldn’t find someone through more “normal” means and therefore as a last resort had to fall back on going to in the internet in order to be able to find someone willing to put up with them. This is so far from the truth, and I am glad to say that attitudes have massively changed here in the UK. Now to use the internet to find a match for what you are looking for is just seen as smart! It is using modern advances to help you make your life better... and likely the life of the person that you end up sleeping with!
We need a major attitude change here still on sex. We need to be celebrating people more when they get laid. They are improving their own lives and the life of the person that they just slept with.
So next time you know someone who is taking positive action to improve their sexual set up, celebrate them for taking action.
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