Selection is 90% of what makes it work – so start with sex

True Story: Last week I met a girl I hadn't seen in a literally years. It was great to see and have a proper catch up – from what I could tell she seemed both well and happy – and truth be told as good looking as ever! So after 5 minutes she wheels out her boyfriend, and after talking for a bit it transpires that the boyfriend is in fact the fiancé. I asked the inevitable question of where they had met, and the answer was Tinder.

Now the main thing that tinder has going for it is that it is based on photos – physical attraction is the primary tool with which you “select” the person you are going to meet up with. It all starts/stems from whether you like the look of the person. For many people they presume that this means that the interaction is unlikely to develop into a relationship, and that it is at best fleeting because it is so aimed at people looking for sex as a primary – much like what we do here at F-buddy. We are looking to match people based on a great sexual chemistry.

Here’s where it gets interesting. Given that people don’t change easily, starting out with someone with good sexual chemistry from the outset can save you years of sexual frustration! Selecting the right person for you, someone you are genuinely attracted to, that wants to do the same things in bed as you, that clothe rippingly fancies you as much as you fancy them can guarantee spending loads of time with someone with whom you have a fantastic sex life with! So... my suggestion here is to start with the sex and do the relationship (if you choose to have one) later.

What happened with my old female friend is that she met someone through a hook up website and then, well, hooked up. This went on to lead to much more in this particular case, and whilst it doesn’t always do that or indeed need to do that to make it worthwhile, what she can be 100% sure of is that she is guaranteed to have a great sex life for years to come because that is where she started out.

So my advice to you – start with the sex, and let the other stuff come later in its own time.