Different girls are attracted to different types of guys, depending on who they are and what stage of life they are in. An 18 year old who is out exploring the world and her sexuality wants someone exciting and probably a little dangerous even. Someone who is out there, having fun, pumping emotion. They want an adventurer. Someone on the other end of the life scale, say a 38 year old who desperately wants kids and a family, is going to be looking for a man that is stable. A man with a good income, a regular life, routine and stability are important to her. She is looking for a man to help raise a family, she is looking for a provider. So which one is it better to be?
Well there is no better or worse in this case – it is just different. An adventurer is going to attract a different kind of woman to a provider. An adventurer is going to find themselves sleeping with the more happy go lucky types, the girls looking for more relaxed sexual encounters. If you are looking for a no strings attached relationship, the ideal person to find is an adventurer! They will come, they will fuck, then they will leave to go off, well, adventuring! They are fun to be around, and nothing really gets to serious.
If you are looking for a fuck buddy and you find yourself with a provider, unless you decide that actually want to try is actually being with a provider, to move across to stability and some routine, then your days are somewhat numbered. You will eventually get bored and leave. It is inevitable, and the reason it is inevitable comes down to something out of your control. It is because of attraction.
Who you are attracted to is based on who *you* are much more than who they are. If you are in the adventuring stage and you meet a provider, it may be fun for a while, but it won’t stick. The same is true the other way around.
The transition is when people break up. If you are both adventuring and things are going swimmingly, then one of you changes into the provider, unless you also change you are now in a broken relationship. Two people can change together, and it happens all the time. Sometimes though, it just ends in heart break.
So which one are you? It is worth recognising this – that way you can go ahead and target the right kind of potential mate!
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