There are certain things that are easier to with a fuck buddy than with someone with whom you are in a long term established ‘traditional’ relationship. The reason for this is simple: honesty and stakes. When you are in a long-term relationship it generally feels like you have everything to lose. You have invested time and energy into this person, and you feel like there are no other options on the table. This means that you are risk-averse in the relationship, which can lead you to become boring in your quest to play it safe. Ironically this is all driven from wanting to have a great relationship and sex life, though the result is that you end up with neither! With a fuck buddy, that is not the case.
With a fuck buddy you are together for the sex. This means that the sex is the focus of the relationship. This brings with a greater level of sexual honesty, and that can open a lot of doors for you both. There is also a greater feeling of relaxation. The stakes are much lower the whole time, which encourages a level of openness and honesty that sometimes lacks in even the longest of relationships. You can just tell the other person what you are thinking. In this article, I would like to encourage you to share your sexual fantasies.
We all have sexual fantasies, this is extremely normal. What is also normal is an inability to share these fantasies. There is nothing wrong with keeping them private of course, but there can be huge advantages to sharing them in two ways.
The sharing of fantasies can be a huge turn on – for both of you
If you want to try this, sit opposite your fuck buddy and make a deal not touch each other. Then looking deeply into the other persons eyes, describe your fantasy. When you do it, make the other person the object of your desires in the fantasy. Give it as much detail and depth as you can… and take you time. There is no rush. Then let your fuck buddy do the same. By the end of you, you are both going to be raring to rip each other’s clothes off.
You might get to live it
Once you have shared, there is always the chance that you might get to live it. Depending on how the other person feels about it, and how exotic it is, you might find they are up for doing it with you. That might be as a re-enactment rather than in reality, but that is just as fun!
So share your fantasies with your fuck buddy. It is great.
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